It is really nice to see and hear about this wonderful Saiva family. For souls who want to take another birth for the purpose of advancing spiritually, such a family with over flowing love and Sivaness is the right place.
Focus on being a soul, not the body, mind and emotions. When we think of ourselves as a soul we're able to move forward and get closer and closer to Siva. That's the whole idea of Saiva Siddhanta. A negative self-concept is an obstacle. We can change our self-concept through applying Gurudeva's teachings, affirming every day that we are a divine being. Vasana daha tantra: Going back and understanding experiences; clearing up the reactions to the past.