Today we share a short teaching from Gurudeva, who would always tell a new husband he should take responsibility for his wife’s happiness by fulfilling all her needs and, indeed, all of her wants. Some thought that could be an expensive proposition, but Gurudeva would assure them that the wife would never ask for more than he could provide, for she too knows the family limits, and, he would add, her happiness will make you happy. He speaks here of that ideal.
In the home, the mother is likened to the Shakti Deity. She is the power,
the very soul of the home. None other. So she has to be there. She has
to be treated sensitively and kindly, and with respect. She has to be
given all the things she needs and everything she wants so she will release
her shakti power to support her husband, so that he is successful in all his
When she is hurt, depressed, frustrated or disappointed,
she automatically withdraws that power, compromising his success in the
outside world along with it. People will draw away from him. His job,
business or creative abilities will suffer. This is her great siddhi, her inborn
power, which Hindu women know so well.
It is the manis duty, his purusha dharma, to provide for her and for the
children. The husband should provide her with all the fine things, with a
good house which she then makes into a home, with adornments, gold and
jewels and clothes, gold hanging down until her ears hurt, more bracelets,
more things to keep her in the home so she is feeling secure and happy.
In return she provides a refuge, a serene corner of the world where he
can escape from the pressures of daily life, where he can regain his inner
perspective, perform his religious sadhana and meditations, then enjoy
his family. Thus, she brings happiness and peace of mind to her family, to
the community and to the world.
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Bodhinatha's Latest Upadeshas: "The Difference in Practice of Theism and Monism" (September 3, 2014)
During a puja we're in Theism, to receive the blessings of the Deity. After a puja we can go within our self in meditation, giving up the idea of an external Deity, Monism. Monistic Theism: Advaita Ishvaravada. Advaita means the Monism; Ishvara means the Theism.
In Shum we use two words that relate to that: shumif and dimfi. First, perfect your Theism. Then become a monist. That's called Saiva Siddhanta; one leads to the other.